How to Work Smarter, Not Harder
We all run into situations that knock the life out of us. Things we get so emotionally involved with, that we don’t realize we have all the tools we need to take back our power. Over the years, I’ve had my share of intense situations, and lately, I’ve received one hit after another. Patience, meditation and analyzation have been my key tools to taking my power back. Speaking my mind has helped me take my power back.
When I was a kid, I was smart and loud. I was constantly told to lower my voice. I felt it stifled me, and as a result I suffered with constant swollen glands a Strep Throat. In the last few years, as I’m creeping deeper into my 40’s, I’ve learned to quickly drop what no longer serves me, in any manner necessary to get that energy out of my personal space.
Two years ago I began a Spiritual Purge. My life was becoming toxic with stress. I couldn’t function, and didn’t want to leave the house. I began meditating and was given the message to begin a Spiritual Purge. This is not an easy process, as you are hit with lifetimes of Karma all at once. I had already survived a nasty divorce and prior to that a sexual assault, so I thought, this won’t be too bad. I was wrong. I was sick for 2 years, and was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, and PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome). You could see my sickness in my skin, and I had little to no energy. Once that battle was managed, the real attacks came in. I was fired from a job, after I’d already resigned. I was slandered, almost sued, but I proved my case with the truth. There are other battles going on behind the scenes, and I want to stop and hide, but that’s not helpful. I keep going, because I have to keep going. You can fix your life, if you face it.
Here are my Tools for Coping:
- Get Angry. Release, Yell, Scream, Fight, get the emotion out as fiercely and quickly as possible. Hold nothing back. When you feel completely purged, pull yourself together and use your mind.
- Educate yourself. Learn all you can about the situation you are in, so you can find ways to help yourself. Don’t listen to anything other than your own mind, and if you run into a wall, ask someone you can trust to be impartial to help you figure out the next step.
- Make Lists. Pros and Cons of the choices you have in front of you and detail every situation you think can happen. Then rule out the impossible scenarios and work with logic.
- Meditate on the situation and listen to the information that come to you. Write it down. If it’s a message you don’t fully understand yet, keep an eye out for signs that will help lead you in the right direction.
- Take Care of You. Don’t forget to eat well, drink enough water and try to get rest. I tend to not eat or sleep and run on pure adrenaline when something affects me negatively.
- Fight Fire With Water. That’s right, fighting fire with fire never works, you must strategize and fight fire with water, in order to extinguish the negativity from your life.
- Keep Doing Good. At my lowest points, during meditation, the only message I received was “Keep Doing Good”, so I did. Negativity creates anger and chaos, and it is a vicious cycle that is difficult to get out of. Go out and do something good after a traumatic event. It is very healing for the Spirit.
- Dress to Impress. Make sure you feel confident, especially on the darkest days.
- Maintain a lighthearted attitude. Count your blessings and show your gratefulness to those blessings for helping bring you out of the darkness.
- Music. Whether you play an instrument, sing or just listen, use music as a tool to restore the mind, body & spirit.