Millennial Identity Crisis

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April 12, 2019

Opinion: Can Millennials Escape Their Identity Crisis?

What Identity?

To be fair, to the hard workers, the kids with the crap lot in life, and those abused neglected and misunderstood; (our marginalized communities) this is about those with entitlement, opportunity and no drive to do a damn thing. The fact that this even needed to be said, speaks volumes.

Millennials and Post- Millennials; the mystery generation. Where did they come from?  Who gave birth to them? How did their attitudes come to be?

  • The Silent Generation: Born 1928-1945 (73-90 years old)
  • Baby Boomers: Born 1946-1964 (54-72 years old)
  • Generation X: Born 1965-1980 (38-53 years old)
  • Millennials: Born 1981-1996 (22-37 years old)
  • Post-Millennials: Born 1997-Present (0-21 years old)

Millennials and post-millennials are the children of Gen X’er’s. The whiny Millennials and Post Millennials are the children of the Gen Xer’s that didn’t get it right. More like the MAWG’s (middle age white guys)  and OWG’s (old white guys) fighting the world out of spite to prove that their ideologies exist for a reason and that those ideologies add value to the world. I am here to tell you, those ideologies do not add value to the world. In fact, they deplete value from the world.

What are those ideologies? For the Baby Boomers, it’s the “good old days”. Those days were when you were young with no responsibilities, that’s why they were good to you. Historically, those weren’t good days for minorities and women. The other ideology; “if it doesn’t affect me, I don’t care.”

For Millennials and Post-Millennials, it’s similar, “me, me, me”, because every feeling right or wrong needs to be validated and rewritten so the ‘kid’ is right. It’s sad really, the way we’ve taken an entire generation and prepared them for nothing.

Yes, everyone is special and unique but that is not a free pass to put yourself above all, no one is that special. People lose, it wont hurt you. Don’t get damaged by it and let something that happened to you so young (that probably wasn’t all that traumatic) affect you so ‘badly’ that you cannot handle life. Barring sexual abuse and other atrocities committed against humans, not getting your way 100% of the time is not a bad thing.

Millennial young adults act more like teenagers than functioning adults in their early 20’s because they were prepared for nothing other than academics. What is with the constant validation of their every little feeling and whim, overall? This generation has no idea who the adult is and who the child is until they need something, then they are the child. You can’t be both. Trying to be both adult and child you exist in limbo floating in an abyss, looking for someone to hand you everything life has to offer on a silver platter, and believing you deserve the best life has to offer simply because you exist.

Being good in school isn’t difficult, good grades don’t impress me, a good character does. Gen X’ers who never grew up and took on the responsibilities in life we all have, raised Millennials to  exist without direction. Its like kids had kids and a portion of two generations are lost. Thankfully the younger Gen X’ers got back to reality. The socially aware Gen X’ers who have raised the younger post-millennials who in my opinon are WOKE.

I had the pleasure of teaching ages 5-14 recently and the difference between this portion of the generation is astounding. Social awareness, anti-bullying, inclusivity, and hard work are a normal thing for this age group. A vast difference for the 18-22-year-olds who plan in their minds, but don’t carry through with anything.

There is the philosophy of Universal Abundance, there is enough for all if we take only our share. This is not just monetary, but happiness, sadness, fear, love, hate; all the emotions. The constant need for validation of all feelings, even temper tantrums, has to lead to confusion as to who is in charge. Nothing has been learned by this generation.

In my opinion, we can help this generation now, with tough love and truth. There comes a point in everyone’s life where they need to hear their shortcomings from others, not be sheltered from them. This generation doesn’t know how to grow and evolve, because they never had to. Now is the time. You are all about to take your place in the world, and although you may not know exactly what that place is, you have to start somewhere and somewhere begins with real responsibility, not the after-school job kind of responsibility.

In short, stop looking at the world and those around you as enemies who don’t understand and offend every fiber of your being. We are not here to make the world a better place for you, that’s why you are here. Begin with yourself, and accept that not everyone cares if you’re upset and offended, again.

Life hasn’t begun to f*** you yet, so prepare yourself for disappointment, loss and hard times, with a little fun sprinkled in. It’s life, but you can conquer it with the right attitude, which is a 180 from your current attitude of “why isn’t life easier for me?”

Grow Up.


Published by Roseanne Carlo

Founder at Gypsy Tribe Westchester 69 Westchester Ave Pound Ridge, NY 10576

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